Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul. Proverbs 6:32 (NKJV)
Naomi Schaefer Riley[i] reports that in a recent interview, Noel Biderman, the CEO of Ashley Madison, a website for people seeking extramarital affairs, observed, “I don’t see an appetite for unfaithfulness waning around the world.” Ashley Madison boasts 36 million members in 46 countries. Biderman attributes the company’s success to “female equality.” As he explained to Business Insider recently. “Women are getting greater equality and are generally getting married later than those in two or three generations ago. They are now more willing to put their marriage at risk. That’s only going to increase because economic conditions for women are better and it gives them more choice.” Decades of social science research to confirm his suspicions.
Schaefer Riley cites a 2001 paper in the Journal of Family Psychology, which stated that “Two variables … considered indexes of opportunity for [extramarital sex], income and employment status, were both significantly related with infidelity.” In other words, it could be true that in the past men, who worked outside the house, had these two indexes available for them while women stayed home to take care of the children. But as more women work outside the home and are less dependent on the spouse for support, they are more inclined to put their marriage at risk. In other words , work opportunities have evened the playing field as far as opportunities and risk-taking for both men and women.
I would not suggest we return to the dark ages and keep women at home while men go to work. Whether we work inside or outside the home, we all need to nourish our marriage so adultery never barges in to destroy it. We also need to consider the risks and the high cost of an affair. As the writer of the Proverbs stated: “For the lips of an immoral woman [or man] drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword. Proverbs 5:3-4 (NKJV)
Father God, keep us from falling into sexual sin which will harm and destroy marriages, families, and even communities.