You shall not follow a crowd to do evil; nor shall you testify in a dispute so as to turn aside after many to pervert justice. Exodus 23:2 (NKJV)
Another time Kristen Kansiewicz suggests you should consider seeing a professional Christian counselor is when conflict becomes repetitive or escalated. As she explains, the sad thing is that “too many couples or families wait until things have fallen apart before seeking counseling. Some only go to counseling as a last-ditch effort or to prove that they ‘tried’ to make things work.”
You should not wait until you are at the end of your rope; seek counseling when you notice conflict that is repetitive, cyclical or it is escalating. When it seems like you continue to argue and fight about the same thing every day for days, weeks, or months on end, it’s time to see a professional who can help you uncover the root of the conflict, teach you new communication strategies, and guide the process of rebuilding trust.
Continual family conflict can develop into such things as depression or anxiety, so it is important to get help before the conflict takes over your emotional life.
Anytime You Just Need to Talk. Kansiewicz says that “there is no ‘right time’ to go to a professional counselor, and if you are thinking about seeking help it may be a sign that now is a good time to do it.” We all have those times when we get “stuck” and just need someone to help us see ourselves from a different perspective. Sometimes friends can help, but sometimes your problems can go beyond what friends can give. Look for Christian counselors in your area (for instance, the NAD family ministries website has a list around the North American Division. www.NADfamily.org). You can also ask your pastor or friends if they know a good therapist.
You don’t have to try to be brave and try to figure things out on your own. We would be better off by humbly step into the counselor’s office so we can begin to experience healing and freedom once again.
Father God, there are some things I just can’t deal with all by myself. Help me and guide me to a good counselor who may show me the way toward health and healing.