Posts Tagged ‘Children’

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Stand in line at any coffee shop, and you’ll hear evidence of picky eating across all ages — from ordering “extra hot” to adding three sugars to half-decaf … or any number of combinations. Like their parents, little ones have picky tendencies, too! That’s why picky eating has become the most common food-related concern among parents.


Read more:  http://www.today.com/parents/10-ways-handle-picky-eater-save-your-sanity-t86481?cid=eml_tes_20160416

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Could Fathers Be Key to Preventing Bullying?

by Anna Sutherland | @annams59

  • Parents’ behavior and example influence children’s likelihood of bullying.
  • Indirect evidence suggests good dads might be key to preventing kids from becoming bullies.


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Parenting: German for “Misery”

by Melissa Langsam Braunstein | @slowhoneybee

  • According to a new German study, parenthood is worse for personal happiness than divorce and unemployment.
  • Less happy new parents are less likely to have a second child. Is that why some nations’ fertility rates are so low?

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How Couples Resolve Conflicts over Childbearing

by Laurie DeRose

When he wants to have a child and she doesn’t, who gets their way? It depends–but the answer isn’t about gender.

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The adoption paradox

Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. 1 John 3:2 (NKJV)


The adoption paradox in America:  Adopted children have parents who are generally well-educated and affluent. They get more time and educational resources from their adoptive parents than the average child gets from their biological parents.  At the same time, they get into more conflicts with their classmates at school, show relative little interest and enthusiasm about learning tasks, and their academic performance is barely average.

The logical question posed by Nicholas Zill in a brief study for the Institute for Family Studies[i] is, why don’t adopted children do better?  He suggests that possible reasons why family resources do not always produce great outcomes may be found in attachment theory, traumatic stress theory, and behavior genetics.  Here’s a brief explanation of each.

Attachment theory holds that a warm, intimate, and continuous relationship with at least one adult, usually the mother, is essential for the mental health of infants and young children.

According to traumatic stress theory, the likelihood of long-term emotional scars depends on the intensity and duration of the stress.

Behavior genetics is relevant because adoptive parents usually cannot choose or control the genetic endowment of the children they adopt.

It is probable all three of these theoretical perspectives play a role in the adoption paradox.  But we must underscore that none of the findings presented here is meant to minimize the priceless contribution that adoptive parents make to the children they take in.  Many adopted children do reasonably well in school and enjoy lives that are far better than they would have experienced had they not been adopted.  What’s important is that parents be realistic about what adoption can and cannot accomplish.  Given the situation in which many women with unplanned pregnancies find themselves, adoption is still a better option.


Father, thank you for adopting us, and for being our loving Father.

[i] http://family-studies.org/the-paradox-of-adoption/?utm_source=IFS+Main+List&utm_campaign=66313a9b30-Newsletter_101&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_c06b05f1ff-66313a9b30-104541745

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Teens and marriage

Both young men and maidens; Old men and children. 13Let them praise the name of the LORD, For His name alone is exalted; His glory is above the earth and heaven. Psalm 148:12-13 (NKJV)


Americans now seem to be leaning toward the idea that marriage is more of an option instead of a milestone on the path to adulthood.  It is interesting to note that although the mean age at first marriage has shown an overall increase, the timing of marriage still varies by sex, ethnicity, and socioeconomic background.

According to an article by Kelly Roberts, Daniel Hubler, and Kate Kirk[i], Oklahoma has one of the nation’s youngest ages of first marriage as well as one of the highest divorce rates.  Their research team set out to gain greater clarity about how cultural niches might impact adolescents’ attitudes about marriage.  Here’s what they learned:

How groups were similar.  When asked about their general attitudes about marriage, most students agreed that it “takes work” and that it is “for life.”   They were more specific about the types of daily life and relationship skills needed to have a healthy marriage and they listed such things as communication, “not fighting,” learning to cook, getting a job, “commitment,” etc.  Overall, each group seemed to have given a great deal of thought to the issue and considered the notion of marriage seriously.

How groups differed.  One of the focus groups used their grandparents as their reference group.  One of the students made the comment, “I think it’s just our parents’ generation that messed up. I’ve seen my grandparents, and they’ve stuck together.”  Students in other groups spoke about their parents’ marriage in positive terms.

Students in the alternative school group said the ideal age for marriage was 18-22, while students in the suburban group said 25-30 is best.  And finally, when asked whether or not they could successfully navigate a marriage the responses also varied.  One student in a high-income group observed, “Every friend in my group has parents who have been divorced at least once.”  A strong, intact, healthy marriage is still the best lesson for our kids.


Father, bless our marriage and may it be a positive lesson for my kids

[i] http://family-studies.org/teens-attitudes-toward-marriage-vary-widely-across-oklahoma/?utm_source=IFS+Main+List&utm_campaign=63a7bf26ba-Newsletter_108&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_c06b05f1ff-63a7bf26ba-104541745

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