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Do something – 2

For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Galatians 5:14 (NKJV)

 

Having been on that side, Suzanne Fleet[i] knows that there are indeed some things you can do without even asking which can be so meaningful and helpful to a family (or a person) in crisis.  She suggests two more things you can do:

  1. Provide childcare. There’s only so much energy, time, and attention to take care of everyone in the family during a time of crisis. Fleet tells of her experience with a premature baby in the hospital:  “My husband had to be at work and I desperately needed to be cloned in order to take care of my 4-year-old son at home and be with my newborn preemie in the NICU at the same time. With no family in town, we needed childcare all the time. We had friends without whom we wouldn’t have made it. We could’ve used a lot more.”  Even if you can help for a few hours while the person takes care of their loved one, while they run an errand, or simply while they take a little break for themselves it could be a wonderful gift to them.
  2. Remember that when things quiet down, it doesn’t mean the crisis is over. Some of the most challenging times for people in crisis happen when those that came to be with them go back to their own lives and routines. Fleet writes, “When our baby was born, we heard from a lot of people who wanted to help. But after a few weeks, the offers were few. He was in the NICU for 2 1/2 months and many health issues remained for a year even after he came home. Those who remembered us after those first few weeks and stepped in to help were so very appreciated. Even those who simply sent messages made a difference. Make a note on your calendar to check back in with someone one month from today.”

Think of what other practical things you could do to help someone during a crisis.  Things like mowing the lawn, shoveling their driveway, some cleaning, changing the oil in their car, walking or feeding their pets.  A small contribution can make a huge difference in helping them get through these challenging moments of their life.

 

Father God, help me to take the practical steps to help someone in crisis so they can find some relief during a very difficult time.

[i] http://www.today.com/kindness/dont-ask-just-do-4-ways-you-can-help-family-t55141

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Do something – 1

“Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them. Add up God’s Law and Prophets and this is what you get. Matthew 7:12 (MSG)

 

A crisis is most often unexpected, which means we have not planned properly for it.  It could be an accident that leaves us bedridden for several days or weeks, or the birth of a premature baby which means a prolonged stay at the hospital, or a death in the family.  Well-meaning people want to be helpful and yet don’t know what to do, and often they will ask, “if there’s anything I can do please let me know.”

Having been on that side, Suzanne Fleet[i] knows that there are indeed some things you can do without even asking which can be so meaningful and helpful to a family (or a person) in crisis.  She suggests four things you can do:

  1. Provide food. For people in the southern United States, their first reaction to bad news (and also good news) is to start making a casserole. You might think the family will be overwhelmed with so much food from different people, but they will be grateful for everything that’s provided for them. They may not have any groceries or anything prepared, so ready to eat meals will come in very handy. Do check in about food allergies and dietary restrictions first.  Fresh fruit and vegetables are always good, and if there’s a way to have ready-made salads they can serve quickly it can be very helpful, too.
  2. Run errands. Why not call or text your neighbor in crisis and ask if they need anything you can get for them. Fleet tells of her experience, “One of my incredibly sweet neighbors texted me almost every time she went to the grocery store. ‘Do you need anything?’ I still remember crying one day after getting her message. I needed everything, but just bread and strawberries would get me through that day — and that translated to an extra 45 minutes with my baby at the hospital. Another mother at my older son’s preschool bought his school supplies without even asking. I just got a text from her saying, ‘I got your school supplies. Take it off your list.’ These are the gestures you never forget.”

Father, help me to be thoughtful and take action with people in crisis.

[i] http://www.today.com/kindness/dont-ask-just-do-4-ways-you-can-help-family-t55141

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