Posts Tagged ‘Obstacles’

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 (NLT)

Resilience is the ability to withstand stress, obstacles, and catastrophe. Psychologists have long recognized the capabilities of humans to adapt and overcome risk and adversity.  At the same time, being resilient doesn’t mean going through life without experiencing stress and pain. Everyone experience grief, sadness, and a range of other emotions after adversity and loss. The path to resilience lies in working through the emotions and effects of stress and painful events.

Resilience is also not something that you’re either born with or not but rather it develops as people grow up and learn to manage their changing situations in life.  Resilience also comes from supportive relationships with parents, peers and others, as well as cultural and spiritual beliefs and traditions that help people cope with the inevitable bumps in life.  Yesterday we looked at 5 of the 10 things Jen Uscher[i] suggests you do to help you be more resilient.  Here are the other five:

  1. Have a Sense of Purpose. Do things that bring meaning to your life. It could be spending time with your family, but also volunteering or other work for a cause can also make you feel stronger. When you help others you are also helping yourself.
  2. Learn Healthy Habits. You’ll manage stressful times better if you exercise regularly, eat a balanced diet, take time to rest, drink plenty of water, get fresh air and sunshine.
  3. Believe in Yourself.  Take pride in your abilities and what you’ve done. Recognize your personal strengths.
  4. Keep Laughing.  Hold on to your sense of humor even when times are tough.  Laughter relieves stress and helps you keep things in check.
  5. Be Optimistic.A positive, hopeful outlook will make you much more resilient. Remember that many of the problems you’ll face in life are temporary, and that you have overcome setbacks in the past.

We all will experience bumps along the journey of life.  Those bumps may trip us and make us fall, but they will also strengthen us along the way.

Father God, Help us to be more resilient and be overcomers in life.

[i] http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/overcome-obstacles-resilience


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For a righteous man may fall seven times And rise again, But the wicked shall fall by calamity. Proverbs 24:16 (NKJV)

Some people seem to be born with the ability to overcome obstacles and setbacks with relative ease. It’s a trait that experts call resilience.  People with resilience have a greater sense of control over their lives which makes them more willing to take risks.  In addition, because of their optimistic outlook, they are more likely to develop and maintain positive relationships with others.  So, how do you make yourself more resilient? Jen Uscher[i] suggests 10 things to focus on:

  1. Stay Flexible. Resilient people expect to face challenges at some point in their lives, and are able to adjust their goals and find ways to adapt.
  2. Learn Lessons. Even when you have a negative experience, don’t focus on who’s to blame; focus on the positive lessons you can learn from it. Stop asking “Why me?” and feeling like a victim. Ask yourself what you could do differently next time to have a better result.
  3. Take Action. Think about what you can do to improve your situation, and then do it. Don’t let yourself be paralyzed by negative thoughts; instead, work on solving the problem. Perhaps making a list of possible options would be a good start.
  4. Stay Connected. It is important to nurture your relationships with friends and family. When you’re going through a hard time, don’t withdraw from other people; instead, accept help from those who care about you. Resilient people have at least one or two people in their lives they can turn to for support.
  5. Release Tension. Make sure you have outlets to express your emotions and let go of tension. For instance, you could write in a journal, draw, pray, go for long walks, or talk with a friend or counselor.

Here’s a great promise to take to heart, “Those who have a humble, trusting, contrite heart, God accepts and hears their prayer; and when God helps, all obstacles will be overcome.”[ii]

Father God, helps us to overcome the obstacles in our path and to remember you are always there to help us.

[i] http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/overcome-obstacles-resilience

[ii] White, Ellen. G. Counsels on Health. P. 367

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