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Effects of Pornography on Adolescents

Pornography has significant effects during all stages of family life. For a child exposed to pornography within a family setting, pornography causes stress and increases the risk for developing negative attitudes about the nature and purpose of human sexuality.

For adolescents who view pornography, their attitudes toward their own and others’ sexuality change, and their sexual expectations and behavior are shaped accordingly.

 

Read more:  http://marripedia.org/effects_of_pornography_on_adolescents

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Pornography is not new, but the digital age has made it more ubiquitous and accessible than ever before. The technological realities of smartphones and high-speed internet have fundamentally changed the landscape of pornography, and ushered it into the cultural mainstream where it enjoys increasingly widespread acceptance.

Read more: https://www.barna.org/research/culture-media/research-release/porn-in-the-digital-age-new-research-reveals-10-trends?utm_source=Barna+Update+List&utm_campaign=20c22a58ed-Barna_Update_Porn_in_the_Digital_Age_New4_3_2016&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_8560a0e52#.VxVhQPkrKCg

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Let’s talk about porn – 3

Waiting for the revelation of our Lord Jesus Christ, 8who will also confirm you to the end, that you may be blameless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. (1 Cor. 1:7-8 NKJV)

Joshua Kansiewicz, senior associate pastor of East Coast International Church in Lynn, Massachusetts,[i] gives us four essentials that must be part of this conversation if we are going to make room for the power of the Holy Spirit to conquer this sin in our lives: Filter ourselves, assess the damage, confess to a leader or mentor, and finally:

Use All The Resources You Need.   Through the power of Jesus, there is hope that you can find healing as you struggle with pornography! The good news is that you don’t have to take this journey all by yourself.  Many others, men and women, have traveled it before you.  Here are some resources that others traveling on this road have found helpful:

Books

  • Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Laaser
  • Wired for Intimacy by William M. Struthers
  • Facing the Shadow by Patrick Carnes (This is a secular resource, but many Christians have found it to be helpful)
  • Omar Miranda***

Websites

  • x3watch.com – offers non-invasive, free filtering software
  • safeeyes.com – offers filtering software
  • freedomeveryday.org – offers resources such as local groups and workbooks for men and women struggling with sexual addiction
  • faithfulandtrue.com – offers access to workshops, books and a podcast by Dr. Mark Laaser

Father God, help me as I struggle to be free from the sin that has entangled me.

[i] https://vitalmagazine.com/Home/Article/Let-s-Talk-About-Porn/

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For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; 4that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5not in passion of lust (1 Thes. 4:3-5 NKJV)

Besides filtering ourselves, Joshua Kansiewicz, senior associate pastor of East Coast International Church in Lynn, Massachusetts,[i] gives us three more essentials that must be part of this conversation if we are going to make room for the power of the Holy Spirit to conquer this sin in our lives:

Assess the Damage.  While getting rid of or getting filters on all electronic devices must be an initial emergency response to admission of a porn problem, it does not begin to deal with the long-term issues or the root causes of someone’s use of pornography.  One must identify the issues and causes by taking the time to assess the damage. Kansiewicz suggests that this first step requires a journal and lots of time.  Begin your work on that journal by asking and addressing three key questions:  What have I done? Why did I do it? What harm has it caused?

Quite often people need a lot more guidance than just pondering these three questions.  That takes us to the next step.

Confess to a Leader or Mentor.  Confession cuts through self-denial and self-delusion and forces us to come to terms with the extent and implications of our sin.  Since looking at porn is a secretive sin, it festers in the darkness.

Confession begins the healing process by rejecting isolation and shame.  In addition, confession makes crucial resources available to you.  As Kansiewicz writes, “We all need help, especially the help of those who are wiser, more spiritually mature or more godly than we are. This may be a pastor, or a mentor, or a Christian counselor. It should be someone who is courageous enough to ask you hard questions but gracious enough to love you regardless of the answer. Someone like that may well be equipped to guide you to a place of greater wholeness and health.”

Father, help me to be honest with myself and others so I can begin the healing process until I am completely free of sin in my life.

[i] https://vitalmagazine.com/Home/Article/Let-s-Talk-About-Porn/

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Let’s talk about porn – 1

But my eyes are upon You, O GOD the Lord; In You I take refuge; Do not leave my soul destitute. Psalm 141:8 (NKJV)

As soon as porn is mentioned, we start squirming in our seats because it is an uncomfortable topic, particularly in the church.  We are often sked, “What can we do?”  One of the challenges is that we don’t even know what words to use to describe this behavior. Is it a sin? An addiction? A habit?  The reality is that these are not mutually exclusive ideas.

Joshua Kansiewicz, senior associate pastor of East Coast International Church in Lynn, Massachusetts,[i] gives us four essentials that must be part of this conversation if we are going to make room for the power of the Holy Spirit to conquer this sin in our lives:

Filter Yourself.  Think about this: How many ways can you get on the Internet right now?  Within your reach at this moment you probably have at least a laptop, a tablet, and a smart phone.  We have them at work, and we have them at home.  As Kansiewicz writes, “If porn is an issue for you, then every one of those devices is offering you a wealth of temptation right now. For someone dealing with porn, walking around with a cell phone is like an alcoholic walking around with a hip flask.”

It takes great amounts of humility to admit that we have a problem, that we need help, and that for us this much access to electronic pornography might be unsafe or unhealthy. It requires the simple yet painful admission that unfiltered Internet isn’t safe.   As strong as we may think we are, perhaps we ought to begin by admitting that Satan is devious, and any of us may fall.

It may also be time for us to admit that perhaps none of us should be on an unfiltered device, whether we have problems with pornography or not.  If we struggle with pornography, we may have to consider not having unlimited access to the internet.  That may mean not having a smart phone, or having filters or accountability software on every device (there will be a suggested list at the end of this series).

Father God, keep my eyes, and therefore my soul, clean and focused only on you.

[i] https://vitalmagazine.com/Home/Article/Let-s-Talk-About-Porn/

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The mind shuts off

People with their minds set on you, you keep completely whole, Steady on their feet, because they keep at it and don’t quit. Isaiah 26:3 (MSG)

 

According to Billy Hallowell, in The Blaze,[i] science offers another reason to stay away from pornography.  David Greenfield, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Connecticut School of Medicine and director of the Center for Internet and Technology Addiction says that, “When you’re in a sexual arousal process where you’re looking at pornography, you’re activating limbic parts of the brain.”

Greenfield explains that the prefrontal cortex — the area where personal decisions are made in light of morals and values — is essentially shut off while viewing porn, with the desire to see more so strong that it supersedes any feelings or cautions someone might have that would potentially hold them back from partaking in such activity.  He added, “The frontal cortex sends information back to the hippocampus which says ‘remember the last time you did this, this is not going to feel good,’ the ability for that circuit to occur is hampered.”  Addicts also have the same dynamic since they don’t have control over their judgment, leading them to repeated behaviors.

Hallowell also refers to research by Donna Rice Hughes, CEO and president of Enough Is Enough, a nonprofit devoted to ensuring the Internet is a safe place for children, who wrote an article on the subject titled, “The Internet P*rnography Pandemic.” Hughes calls the findings of current research “eye-opening” and claims that Internet smut has a “harmful impact on the emotional, mental and sexual health of young children, tweens and teens.”

God provided us with a brain to not simply operate and control every area of our body.  Every sound we hear, everything we taste, everything we feel through our fingers, everything we smell is processed and filled in the brain.  In the same way, every image we see is sent to the brain where those images are processed and forever filed there.  And the more we watch, the more we want to watch…unless we yield control of our brain over to God.

 

Father God, take full control of my brain.  Clean it, reshape it, and strengthen it that I may be free from anything sinful that controls it.

[i] http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2015/02/03/psychologist-reveals-what-watching-porn-does-to-the-brains-ability-to-weigh-morals-and-values-in-decision-making/

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Turn my eyes away from what is worthless! Revive me with your word! (Psalms 119:37 NET)

 

Research shows that the frontal lobe of the brain, which is the person’s seat of judgment and moral decisions, can essentially shut off when they view porn.  Psychiatrist David Greenfield[i] explains that, “When you’re in a sexual arousal process where you’re looking at pornography, you’re activating limbic parts of the brain.”  The result is that the desire to see porn is so strong that it supersedes any feelings or cautions someone might have that would potentially hold them back from partaking in it.

Greenfield continues, “What we find with addiction and when patterns of behavior get out of hand, whether it has to be with porn, sex, drugs, alcohol or gambling, is that the neural hormonal pathways that project the frontal cortex from the mid-brain seem to cut off.”  And then he adds, “The frontal cortex sends information back to the hippocampus and says ‘remember the last time you did this, this is not going to feel good,’ the ability for that circuit to occur is hampered.”

Recently released study analyzing porn use among young men found that those who consume porn on a regular basis are potentially less likely to get married.  But this rising porn consumption is not limited just to young men; it is reaching your children as well.  Donna Rice Hughes, CEO and president of Enough Is Enough, a nonprofit devoted to ensuring the Internet is a safe place for children, wrote an article where she provided an overview of the research that has been done on the subject of pornography, where she called the findings “eye-opening” and where she claimed that Internet smut has a “harmful impact on the emotional, mental and sexual health of young children, tweens, and teens.”

The palmist prays that God will help us turn our eyes away from that which is worthless so that we may be revived by His word.  Don’t allow garbage to reside in your seat of judgment, the frontal lobe of your brain.  Instead, invite God to take control of your mind and life.

 

Father God, help us to be free from the contaminating influence of pornography or any other harmful and sinful practice and instead help us to rejoice and live in the light of your word.

[i] http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2015/02/03/psychologist-reveals-what-watching-porn-does-to-the-brains-ability-to-weigh-morals-and-values-in-decision-making/

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