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Introverted Partner? 5 Things to Know

If your partner is an introvert, you’ve probably noticed that their idea of a good time is a bit different than yours. While you – as an extrovert – more often prefer a party, your partner would usually rather stay home for quiet evening as a couple. You are energized by social activities; your partner, on the other hand, is energized by time spent alone. To keep this difference from leading to misunderstandings, it’s a good idea to understand how introverts see the world.

 

Read more: http://blogs.webmd.com/art-of-relationships/2016/03/introverted-partner-5-things-to-know.html?ecd=wnl_sxr_040916&ctr=wnl-sxr-040916_nsl-promo-2_title&mb=K2VcbkxhrhREAZ5zC2UpheHnVev1imbCHYS8QQY8uqo%3d

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Introverted Partner? 5 Things to Know

If your partner is an introvert, you’ve probably noticed that their idea of a good time is a bit different than yours. While you – as an extrovert – more often prefer a party, your partner would usually rather stay home for quiet evening as a couple. You are energized by social activities; your partner, on the other hand, is energized by time spent alone. To keep this difference from leading to misunderstandings, it’s a good idea to understand how introverts see the world.

Read more: http://blogs.webmd.com/art-of-relationships/2016/03/introverted-partner-5-things-to-know.html?ecd=wnl_emw_041316&ctr=wnl-emw-041316_nsl-promo-1_title&mb=K2VcbkxhrhREAZ5zC2UpheHnVev1imbCHYS8QQY8uqo%3d

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As a divorce mediator for many years, I thought I was more prepared than anyone for what lay ahead as I faced my own divorce. Well, I was wrong! Here are some of the things no one told me, which I learned from going through it — and coming out on the other side.

Read more: http://www.today.com/health/10-things-i-wish-i-d-known-getting-divorced-t82321?cid=eml_tes_20160416

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When you’re in a relationship with someone, you are bound to get upset with that person at least occasionally. Sometimes, not wanting to offend them, you let the issue go. But other times, you may really want to say something – either because you are so hurt or angry, or because there is a recurring problem that you need to address. It’s important to speak up – but how you do so can mean the difference between solving the problem and making it worse.

 

Read more: http://blogs.webmd.com/art-of-relationships/2016/04/need-to-bring-up-a-problem-heres-how.html?ecd=wnl_sxr_041616&ctr=wnl-sxr-041616_nsl-promo-2_title&mb=K2VcbkxhrhREAZ5zC2UpheHnVev1imbCHYS8QQY8uqo%3d

 

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by Steven M. Harris

  • Deciding to divorce does not happen overnight, and for most couples the process is fraught with ambivalence.
  • Ambivalence is part and parcel of being in a long-term relationship. How we handle that ambivalence is what matters.

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http://family-studies.org/feeling-ambivalent-about-your-marriage-so-is-everyone-else/?utm_source=IFS+Main+List&utm_campaign=72a0715501-Newsletter_95&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_c06b05f1ff-72a0715501-104541745

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‘I Wanna Know Them First’

by David Lapp | @AmberDavidLapp

  • Many working-class young adults who don’t object to premarital sex still think relationships should move more slowly.
  • Many agree sex should happen in a loving relationship, but how can you tell if the love you feel is mutual?

 

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http://family-studies.org/i-wanna-know-them-first-hookup-culture-one-night-stand/?utm_source=IFS+Main+List&utm_campaign=72a0715501-Newsletter_95&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_c06b05f1ff-72a0715501-104541745

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A complete single

But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 1 Corinthians 7:8 (NKJV)

 

Christopher, a young, divorced man told David Lapp[i], “You have to be a secure person, a full person.”  Christopher loved to drink and party, but vowed that he would be a functioning alcoholic.  His wife, Cammi, always said that she would change him, but when it came to alcohol and partying, nobody was about to change him…alcoholism tore his marriage apart.

When Lapp interviewed Christopher, he had been divorced from Cammi for about a year, but after attending Alcoholic Anonymous he “found God.”  As he reflected on his past, he thinks that both he and Cammi entered marriage with deep insecurities. He also thinks that they moved too fast in their relationship: they had sex soon after meeting each other, which, “fueled our relationship to continue.”

As he reflects on his marriage and divorce, he believes that you need to be emotionally “complete” as a person before you enter marriage.  As he says, “You have to be a secure person, a full person. I think really you have to have God in your life and you have to live that life.”

We know that marriage brings a number of benefits in its train – better health, sex, and finances, among others.  The question is, what are the limits of those benefits, particularly for people with traumatic childhood experiences?  According to the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study of over 17,000 people, almost two-thirds of participants reported at least one “adverse childhood experience,” like physical abuse, a household member’s mental illness, or parental separation or divorce (the study identifies ten). More than one in five people reported at least three adverse experiences.

If we are the result of our upbringing, you need to pay attention to such things like your and your future spouse’s physical and mental health, your faith, character and personality, your finances, and so much more.  In other words, be sure you are a healthy and complete person.

 

Father God, help me be a complete person instead of looking to be complete in marriage, by somebody else.

[i] http://family-studies.org/for-marriage-to-work-you-have-to-be-a-secure-person/?utm_source=IFS+Main+List&utm_campaign=32b7a47f24-Newsletter_103&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_c06b05f1ff-32b7a47f24-104541745

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