Posts Tagged ‘Success’

I was cast upon You from birth. From My mother’s womb You have been My God. Psalm 22:10 (NKJV)

Having shared tips on how to succeed at work and at romance, Shelby Marra,[i] writing for TODAY, shares Dr. Suzanne Gelb’s top tips on how people, particularly women, can succeed at parenting:

  1. Be fully present. It is important to show your children, especially when they are young, that they are deserving of your undivided attention. That means that you leave the emails and phone calls at work, or wait to check on them until after you have put your child to bed.  Give them the positive attention they need will also enable you to have a quality experience with your child while making them feel loved and nurtured.
  2. Listen, ask questions and share wisdom. Listen to your children and talk to them as much as possible. As Marra writes, “Interacting with your children while they are young and challenging their mind through conversation allows you to build a strong relationship with them that will carry on in later years. If you show your child they can trust you at a young age, they will feel more comfortable communicating with you in their teen and adult years.”
  3. Be the person you would want your child to be. Remember that as a parent you are always teaching your children. In fact, most of what children learn comes from watching their parent. Marra writes, “If you exude high achievement, happiness and love, then your child will grow up to be the same.”

Gelb concludes that for many women (and people in general), becoming a high achiever in both their professional and personal lives is within reach.  You may have to make changes in your outlook, your attitude, your behavior, and even your personal beliefs.  But the result can be not only success in life, but a more rewarding life.

Perhaps the following words can serve to encourage you:  “From the first to the last of the Christian life, not one successful step can be taken without Christ. He has sent his Spirit to be with us constantly, and by confiding in Christ to the uttermost, surrendering our will to him, we may follow him whithersoever he goeth.”[ii]

Father God, Help me to succeed in life, but especially in parenting.

[i] http://www.today.com/health/how-become-high-achieving-woman-work-your-relationship-parent-t33071?cid=eml_tes_20150718

[ii] White, E.G., Review & Herald,  June 26, 1894

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Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going. Ecclesiastes 9:10 (NKJV)

Shelby Marra,[i] writing for TODAY, asks, “How do you move into the lofty world of high achievers? The first step is to believe in yourself and know that you deserve success.”  She refers to research of Dr. Suzanne Gelb, a clinical psychologist and life coach of 28 years based in Hawaii, who writes that “although many women have a hard time overcoming social stigmas –such as the outdated belief that women cannot be competent employees and mothers at the same time– once a woman realizes her full potential and rids her mind of toxic thoughts, she can take over the world, Beyoncé style.”  Gelb gives her top tips on how people, particularly women, can become and remain high achievers, particularly in three aspects of their life. Today: Work.

  1. Find a mentor. Surround yourself with like-minded professionals provides you with the inspiration to be your own personal best in the workplace, while at the same time providing you with a network of support and guidance.
  2. Enjoy the process and keep an open mind. It is easy, particularly for women, to become frustrated and impatient when developments at work or in their careers take too long or don’t happen exactly as they imagined. It’s important for you to remain diligent and passionate while also being open to pursuing all opportunities presented to you, even if it’s not what you originally had in mind for yourself.  When God closes one door, He opens another one.
  3. Go for it! As Marra writes, “Allow yourself to explore new business ventures or speak up in a work meeting about something you feel strongly about. Apply for that job opening, even if you are underqualified. Ask your boss about negotiating a raise. Do not underestimate yourself, and simply go for it!”

You don’t have to settle for what you have or for what you’re doing as if that were your only choice.  Keep trying until you are satisfied with the options you have.

Father God, help me to not be satisfied with less than I can do but to be and succeed at doing what you have planned for me.

[i] http://www.today.com/health/how-become-high-achieving-woman-work-your-relationship-parent-t33071?cid=eml_tes_20150718

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The rich man’s wealth is his strong city: the destruction of the poor is their poverty. Proverbs 10:15 (KJV)

Tom Corley[i]  recommends instilling fifteen good daily success habits.  Yesterday we listed the first eleven; today we list the rest:

  1. Children need to learn how to manage money. Open up a checking account or savings account for children. Let them use their savings to buy the things they want. They need to learn that they are not entitled to things like cell phones, computers, fashionable clothes, flat screen T.V.s etc. They also need to learned about delayed gratification – they don’t have to have what they want at the moment they want it but can work and save toward it and only get it when they have enough to purchase it themselves,
  2. Require children to participate in at least two non-sports-related extracurricular activities at school or outside of school.
  3. Parents and children need to set aside at least an hour a day to talk to one another. Not on Facebook, or on the cell phone, but face to face. The only quality time is quantity time. One of the best times to do this is during dinner time. Research has shown the benefits to children of the family dinner time.  For instance, children in families that enjoy sitting together at the dinner table at least five times a week have lower incidence of teen pregnancy, drug and alcohol abuse, and depression.
  4. Teach children how to manage their time. They should be required to create daily “to do” lists and these lists need to be monitored by parents. The goal should be to accomplish at least 70% of their tasks on their daily “to do” list.

One of the things that makes wealthy people successful is that they do certain things every single day.  They learned these good daily success habits from their parents. But those habits are not limited to the wealthy; anyone can adopt them and teach them to their children.  As Corley explains, “Unless we teach our children good daily success habits, and level the playing field, the rich will continue to get richer and the poor will continue to get poorer.”

Father God, I want my children to be successful in life.  Help me to instill in them the good habits that will help them reach that goal.

[i] http://richhabits.net/will-your-child-be-rich-or-poor/

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GOD brings poverty and GOD brings wealth; he lowers, he also lifts up. 1 Samuel 2:7 (MSG)

Tom Corley writes, “We don’t have a wealth gap in this country we have a parent gap. We don’t have income inequality, we have parent inequality.” [i]  He recommends that parents and schools need to work together to instill the following fifteen good daily success habits:

  1. Limit T.V., social media and cell phone use to no more than one hour a day.
  2. Require children to read one to two educational books a month.
  3. Require children to do aerobically exercise 20 – 30 minutes a day.
  4. Limit junk food to no more than 300 calories a day.
  5. Require that children set monthly, annual and 5-year goals.
  6. Require working age children to work or volunteer at least ten hours a week.
  7. Require that children save at least 25% of their earnings or gifts they receive.
  8. Teach children the importance of relationship building by requiring them to call friends, family, teachers, coaches etc. on their birthdays, and to send thank you cards for gifts or help they received from anyone.
  9. Reassure children that mistakes are good not bad. Children need to understand that the very foundation of success in life is built on learning from our mistakes.
  10. Correct your children when they lose their tempers so they understand the importance of controlling this very costly emotion.
  11. Teach children that seeking financial success in life is good and is a worthwhile goal.

As you look at this list, which continues tomorrow, don’t be overwhelmed because you are not doing them all.  Begin by changing one thing at a time.  Perhaps make one change per week; that will be a positive change.

Father God, help me to begin today, and make one change at a time, so my children will develop healthier habits.

[i] http://richhabits.net/will-your-child-be-rich-or-poor/

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And Abram was very rich in cattle, in silver, and in gold. Genesis 13:2 (KJV)

Tom Corley travels the country teaching high school and college students how they can be financially successful in life.  Why is it important to tell these young people about financial success?  Here are some of the statistics from his five-year study on the daily habits that separate the wealthy from the poor?[i]

72% of the wealthy know their credit score vs. 5% of the poor.

6% of the wealthy play the lottery vs. 77% of the poor.

80% of the wealthy are focused on at least one goal vs. 12% of the poor.

62% of the wealthy floss their teeth every day vs. 16% of the poor.

21% of the wealthy are overweight by 30 pounds or more vs. 66% of the poor.

63% of the wealthy spend less than 1 hour per day on recreational Internet use vs. 26% of the poor.

29% of the wealthy had one or more children who made the honor roll vs. 4% of the poor.

63% of wealthy listen to audio books during their commute vs. 5% of the poor.

67% of the wealthy watch 1 hour or less of T.V. per day vs. 23% of the poor.

9% of the wealthy watch reality T.V. shows vs. 78% of the poor.

73% of the wealthy were taught the 80/20 rule vs. 5% of the poor (live off 80% save 20%).

8% of the wealthy believe wealth comes from random good luck vs. 79% of the poor.

79% of the wealthy believe they are responsible for their financial condition vs. 18% of the poor.

Corley’s conclusion is that poor are poor because they have too many Poverty Habits and too few Rich Habits. Poor parents teach their children the Poverty Habits and wealthy parents teach their children the Rich Habits.  The good news is that we can teach our children good “rich” habits.  We will look at those in the next couple of days.

Father God, help me to establish better habits for my children.

[i] http://richhabits.net/will-your-child-be-rich-or-poor/

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