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Trust more with age

In the LORD I put my trust; How can you say to my soul.  Psalm 11:1 (NKJV)

According to Robert Preidt,[i] from WebMD, research shows that trust increases as people get older and, moreover, that people who trust more are also more likely to experience increases in happiness over time.  It also appears that this trust is not limited to one generation; for millennials, generation X, and baby boomers alike, levels of trust increase as people get older.

The authors of this research comment that older people are more likely to look at the bright side of things.  As we age, they say, “we may be more likely to see the best in other people and forgive the little letdowns that got us so wary when we were younger.”

There is a negative side to this rise in trust among older people which puts them at higher risk for scams and fraud.  At the same time, the researchers didn’t find any evidence that those negatives detract from the benefits of being more trusting. The positive link between trust and well-being was consistent across a lifetime, the study authors said, suggesting that trust is not usually a liability in old age.

In looking back at her own life, Ellen White wrote: “I was very young when I began to serve the Lord. I am now eighty-five years old…and the Lord has never forsaken me. Always he has been my helper, as he will be yours if you will trust in him. It is because I so greatly desire to work for the salvation of souls that I do not give up to infirmities. I am determined that as long as God permits me to live, I will proclaim the message of warning to the world. I want my voice to reach many more before I shall give up my labors. I expect to have trials, but I do not dread them. The Lord knows what I can bear, and he will give me strength to endure. He will sustain me in my weakness, enabling me to follow on, and to know that his going forth is prepared as the morning.”[ii]

It is our privilege to learn to trust God from the time we are young and until we grow older, and to transmit that trust to all around us.

Father God, people, things, and institutions pass away, but you are forever.  Help me to trust more every day in you while I’m young and even as I grow old.

[i] http://www.webmd.com/news/20150327/people-may-grow-more-trusting-with-age-study-finds?ecd=wnl_men_040115&ctr=wnl-men-040115_nsl-promo_4&mb=K2VcbkxhrhREAZ5zC2UpheHnVev1imbCHYS8QQY8uqo%3d

[ii] Youth Instructor, June 9, 1914

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Can I trust you?

It is better to depend on the LORD than to trust mortals. Psalm 118:8 (GW)

 

The last of the seven relationship problems of which Carol Sorgen[i] writes is the issue of trust.

 

  1. Trust

Trust is one of the key components of good relationships.  Are there things that cause you not to trust your spouse? Or do you have unresolved issues that prevent you from trusting others?  You and your spouse can develop trust in each other by following these suggestions:

  • Be consistent.
  • Be on time. Being on time is not only a show of respect but it also shows your spouse you are dependable.
  • Do what you say you will do.
  • Don’t lie. Even little “white lies” train you to not be honest all the time.
  • Call when you say you will, and also call to say you’ll be home late. Don’t leave your spouse at home wondering where you are.
  • Don’t dig up old wounds.
  • Respect your partner’s boundaries.
  • Don’t be jealous.

Even though there will always be issues of conflict, you both can do things to prevent them from becoming big, damaging problems and maybe avoid them altogether.  Remember that both of you are human and neither one will be able to meet every one of their spouse’s needs.  And sprinkle a large dose of humor; laughter is still good medicine.

And finally, don’t think that things would be better with someone else. If you don’t address the problems in your relationship now, the same lack of skills that get in the way now will still be there and will still cause problems no matter what relationship you’re in.

 

Father God, help us to manage and even prevent the conflicts in our relationship which may bring pain and harm it. Help us to stay together and never give up on what you joined together.

[i] Ibid.

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The Author and Finisher

Scripture:  Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God—he could put up with anything along the way: cross, shame, whatever. Hebrews 12:2 (MSG)

Observation:  Author. Gr. archēgos, “leader,” “originator,” “founder,” “pioneer” (RSV). Archēgos is rendered “Prince” in Acts 3:15; 5:31 and “captain” in Heb. 2:10, in each instance with reference to Christ, as here. Christ is the center of the plan of salvation and the source of every Christian grace. It is He who calls fallen men out of the dismal darkness of sin and into the glorious light of the gospel. It is He who cleanses them from their previous life of sin and qualifies them to become sons and daughters of God. It is He who justifies them by His grace, by virtue of His atonement on Calvary. It is He who plants their feet on the pathway to heaven.

        Finisher. Gr. telēiotēs, “perfecter.” The work of justification is only the beginning of the Christian experience. We are not only to lay the “foundation of repentance from dead works” but are to “go on unto perfection” (see on ch. 6:1). We are to “grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3:18). We are to gain victory after victory over our besetting sins (see on Heb. 12:1) and to “grow up into him [Christ] in all things” (Eph. 4:15). Our characters are to be “transformed” by the renewing of our minds (Rom. 12:2). This is the work of the indwelling Christ (Gal. 2:20) as the “perfecter” of faith. This is the work of sanctification. See on Matt. 5:48. [The Seventh-day Adventist Bible Commentary, Volume 7. 1980 (F. D. Nichol, Ed.) (481). Review and Herald Publishing Association.] 

Application:  Sometimes I wonder if we really believe in Jesus’ power and ability to help us!  Many singles rush into relationships which are not healthy or good instead of waiting for God to bring into their lives the right person, at the right time, if that is His will for them.  Others who are convinced God brought that person into the lives set out to change them and make them as they would want them to be – a replica of themselves.

If we truly believe that God has the power and ability to do anything, we need to learn to trust Him with our relationships.  If He is responsible for the start of a friendship, why not allow Him to help that friendship grow into a meaningful, lasting friendship?  And if He wanted that friendship to grow into courtship and eventually into a marital relationship, why not allow Him to do so, in His time?

Of course, the problem with trust in the area of relationships is not limited to singles.  Many married people also set out to change their spouse from the time they say their “I Dos”, and often they destroy what could have been a wonderful spouse nagging them constantly to change.  In my experience I have met many married people discouraged with their marriage and dissatisfied with their spouse.  But if we believe God is the author of our relationship, why not trust Him to make it grow and eventually bring it to a fulfilling fruition?

Keep your eyes on Jesus, not on each other.  He is the author of order in the midst of chaos.  Don’t lose sight of the direction where you want your marriage and your family to go, and with Him, the Author and Finisher of our faith, as your guide, enjoy the most wonderful journey in life, the journey toward eternity. 

A Prayer You May Say:  Father God, we entrust all the relationships in our life, specially our marriage and our family, into your hands.  Because you are their Author, we trust You also to be the Finisher of all that You do in us.

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Scripture: Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)

 

Observation:  Trust in the Lord. Entire trust in God is the only logical position for Christians to take. God has all knowledge and all power, and foresees and prepares against all the troubles that come upon man as sudden emergencies. For anyone to rely on his own understanding under such circumstances is foolish indeed. It is also folly to alternate between trust in self and trust in God.

To place little confidence in one’s own understanding does not mean that a man must lay aside intelligence and give up the power of choice. Intelligence is needed to determine from the Word of God and from God’s guiding providences what is the divine will. A will strengthened and cleansed by God is needed if one is to follow a true course through to the end.

6. He shall direct. Or, “it is He who will direct.” The Hebrew emphasizes that God Himself will make straight and plain the path of His servant, when His servant acknowledges Him in every phase of life’s many activities. [The Seventh-day Adventist Bible Commentary, Volume 3. 1977 (F. D. Nichol, Ed.) (955–956). Review and Herald Publishing Association.]

 

Application:  Here are a couple of questions we need to ask ourselves: Who do you trust  in when things go wrong in your marriage? Do you trust in yourself, or maybe you run to your family or your friends, and you tell them your side of the story?  Some people run to therapists, counselors, divorce lawyers, coworkers, school mates, or even strangers on the street.  And yet, we seldom run to God.  We need to recognize that many of the people we run to in times of marital troubles are not really trained or equipped to give us proper advice and guidance.  Many of them are going or have gone through similar situations but did not resolve them in a healthy way.  How can someone fix our marital challenges when they gave up on theirs?

Now, I know that most people mean well when they offer advice, but not all advice is good, applicable, or helpful.  Our family and friends are already biased toward your side of things and telling them of your marital difficulties may end up turning them against your spouse.  Once you work out the challenges in your relationship it may be difficult for them to work through the feelings they have developed toward your spouse.

I’m not suggesting you get help when you need it but rather to seek God’s help first and then help from others but only from those who may be biased and may have appropriate training and experience to really be able to help us.  God created and designed marriage. He is the Master Designer and Builder!  So then, why don’t we trust Him first, before anybody else, with our marriage?  From Him we can learn all the principles for a healthy, abundant and blessed filled marriage. We trust God with so many areas of our life, why not with our marriage?

 

A Prayer You May Say:  Father God, help us to trust You with our marriage as much, or more, than with any other are of our life.

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